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When Your Life Looks Fine but Doesn't Feel Right
My friend Kate described it to me as the sweater problem. She had a sweater she loved for eleven years, and then one autumn she put it on and it was wrong....
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9 Things to Leave Behind Before the Year Ends
My mother used to clean out the linen closet in the fall. Not the whole house, and never in spring the way the expression promises. Just that one closet, s...
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The Grief No One Prepares Women For
There is a photograph on the wall in my hallway of a woman I no longer recognize. She is thirty-two years old. She is standing at a kitchen counter, laughi...
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The Particular Loneliness of Being Admired
There is a woman in my life who has been admired for as long as I have known her, and I have watched the admiration do something to her over the years that...
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What We Lost When We Started Calling It Self-Care
The phrase self-care entered the cultural bloodstream in the 1970s through the writing of Black feminist activists who used it to describe something specif...
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What the Latest Research Says About Women and Burnout
When Dr. Christina Maslach published the first comprehensive measure of workplace burnout in 1981, she did not expect it to become one of the most widely u...
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What I Used to Call Strength and What I Now Call Survival
I used to be proud of how much I could carry. The list of things was long. A full job. A household. Other people's needs, layered on top of my o...
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What I Learned When I Finally Said No
The first no was to a woman I had known for eleven years. She had asked me, the way she had asked me dozens of times, to do something that would benefit he...
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The Friendship Breakup No One Talks About
My friend and I stopped speaking on a Tuesday in October. There was no fight. There was no final conversation. There was a text I did not answer in the way...
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Women Do Not Need More Motivation. They Need Support.
There is a particular kind of advice that gets aimed at women, and it has been the same for decades. Push harder. Believe in yourself. Manifest the life yo...
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The Year Everything Changed and No One Noticed
There is a particular kind of year that does not look like a turning point while you are living it. Nothing dramatic happens. No one dies. You do not lose...
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